‘Since in some countries telling lies thinking everyone else is stupid is increasing perhaps this Saturday we shall look at this new and strange phenomenon and now past time of many including major institutions, the print and electronic media, mercenary bloggers, politicians, civil society leaders, consumer activist, academicians, civil servants, and other individuals, among them, some morons who ‘some’ claim to be â€˜prestigious and respectable members of society!
According to a great and in-depth and comprehensive study we shall herein call â€˜Project Lies Extra-Crispyâ€™ – Â the purpose to tell lies, can be divided into three types: beneficial lies, spiteful lies, neutral lies.’ – Dr Jacob George
CONSUMERIST â€“ LYING NOW A SKILLFUL POLITICAL ART!
We have all heard the term â€“ â€œLies, damned lies, and statistics” which is a phrase describing the persuasive power of numbers, particularly the use of statistics to bolster weak arguments, and the tendency of people to disparage statistics that do not support their positions.
For some inexplicable reasons too it is also sometimes colloquially used to doubt statistics used to prove an opponent’s point.
For the record â€“ the said terminology was popularized in the United States by Mark Twain (among others), who attributed it to the 19th-century
British Prime Minister Benjamin Disraeli (1804â€“1881): “There are three kinds of lies: lies, damned lies, and statistics.”
However, the phrase is not found in any of Disraeli’s works and the earliest known appearances were years after his death. Other coiners have therefore been proposed. The most plausible, given current evidence, is Englishman Sir Charles Wentworth Dilke (1843â€“1911).
Whether one accepts or not it is a fact that lies might have been part of human life since language appeared. Although they are something people frown upon, they are not all vicious.
Since in some countries telling lies thinking everyone else is stupid is increasing perhaps this Saturday we shall look at this new and strange phenomenon and now past time of many, including major institutions and individuals who some claim to be â€˜prestigious and respectable members of society!
According to a great and in-depth and comprehensive study we shall herein call â€˜Project lies extra-specialâ€™ – Â the purpose to tell lies, can be divided into three types: beneficial lies, spiteful lies, neutral lies.
Interesting thingy is it not?
First in the line is beneficial lies which is usually a mean to help. They are told out of kindness and people benefit from them. They help avoid hurt, sadness, insult, and impersonality.
For example a peasant lied to the Nazi army that no Jews were hiding in his place; parents lie to the children that their beloved grandpa or grandmother, even a departed parent is living happily in heaven. These do cheat the listeners, but in this case can they be praised instead of being criticized.
Secondly where the real danger lies!
Spiteful lies mean to gain benefit and hurt people. They may come in the form of deceit or rumor.
As for deceits, they are mostly made by liars to gain benefit. Lawyers lie on the court to help his criminal client win the lawsuit; sellers lie to their consumers to talk them into buying fake and shoddy products. These liars just benefit from the lies and get reputation, profit or toleration. In comparison, rumors are more vicious.
Liars make them to revenge or pull their rivalries down.
These happen a lot in politics, business and entertainment world.
A politician under threat to his party and him personally may make rumors that the rivalry in involved in sexual scandals or corruption; or may even cook up various others stories using a cowed and state controlled immoral media, or an enterprise may tell the media that their competitors use a forbidden additive to their products; perhaps non halal when there is simply no such thing, or a famous star may expose to the public that another star has a illegitimate child raised somewhere or that she/he is sleeping with some politician or even …. Gay or Lesbian?
These lies are meant to destroy, hurt and should be condemned.
But finally in the case of neutral lies they are meant nothing and are much simpler. When asked about private things, people may avoid answering the truth by telling a lie. This does no harm to both sides and is a protection to privacy.
So lies are generally divided into three types
People all tell lies, on different occasions. Maybe what they need to do is just tell less spiteful lies, then life may become better.
And the list goes on. These are some signals liars give off when lying. Pick up on these signals and you have a good chance of spotting a liar.
So let us look at 15 such possibilities:
1.Â Â Avoid answering your question by deflecting it with a truth. E.g. Q.”Did you eat my Hokkien Char?” A.”I hate Hokkien Char, Â why would I take yours.”
2.Â Â Stiff body movements and gestures. Kept close to body
3.Â Â More than average sweating. (Could also be a sign of nervousness from shyness/diffidence)
4.Â Â Too much information. Telling too much may be a desperate attempt to get you to believe them.
5.Â Â Unusual eye movement. This doesn’t mean avoid eye contact. Truthful people also avoid eye contact from time to time. Right handed people usually look to the left when coming up with a lie and reverse with left-handed people.
6.Â Â Verbal and facial expressions are mismatched.
7.Â Â Liars usually go on the defensive when asked a question. We saw this in a recent debate! They want to convince you of their “honesty”.
8.Â Â Liars might look away or put an object between you when asked a question
9.Â Â Lies come either very quickly (as they were already thinking of the “answer” before you asked) or very slowly (as they are having a quick mental review and coming up with the lie)
10.Â Liars tend to use your exact words and phrases in the answer (e.g. Q.”Did you sleep with a man” A.”No, I did not sleep with a man.”)
11. Speaking monotone
12. Using no pronouns or contractions
13. Avoiding direct answers (like politicians)
14. Joking around with the subject to lower the tension
15. Their responses are usually emotionally vapid, don’t resonate emotionally because liars are always trying to convince you using logic and reason, not emotion.
These are some tips on how to trap a liar:
- Ask leading questions. Questions that suggests the answer or contains the information the examiner is looking for. 98% yes or no answers and are never open ended. Not loaded questions (i.e implicit assumptions.) E.g. “Did you go to the pub last week?”
- Allow awkward silences into the conversation. A liar will become unnerved
- Listen to the tone of their voice. High or shifting pitched voice are a good tell tale sign the person is fibbing.
- Change the subject suddenly. A honest person will be confused, but a liar will be relieved the interrogation is over.
Why not try this out and you will be shocked at how widespread this now art of lying is!